What The Best Of Love Has

Never surrender. It’s so easy to become jaded about relationships and married couples. I know few married people who seem really happy with each other.

I also know of the ones with separate bedrooms, enduring silence at mealtimes like strangers sharing spaces. But from time to time there are signs of life between two people and it reminds me what the best of love has.

I have a friend who has been married for over a decade now. She had complications with her surgery and needed to remain in hospital for nearly a month to heal. She was in rough shape with tubes connecting her to machines, her hair hadn’t been washed in at least a week. I sat next to her hospital bed waiting for her husband to leave so we could talk. He leaned in to kiss her and I looked away. It wasn’t a routine kiss, at all. I felt the emotion, the love, and the concern behind it. I felt like an intruder and lowered my eyes. ‘For better or worse’ is what that kiss meant. I suddenly felt very alone.

When I was into month four with Fly_Boy I had to have some dental work done. I hesitated seeing him right after due to the freezing causing my mouth to look crooked. But I figured he should see me when I’m not the best I can be. He took one look at me and said, “You look goofy!” and I felt so embarrassed. I took the empty pail and disappeared into his blueberry bushes until my face returned to normal. Our connection never did.

At Easter, my son and his girlfriend searched my home for Easter baskets that I filled and hid. In half an hour they came to me exasperated and begged for a hint. I refused to oblige. Off they went again, with my son in the lead. He’s 6’4″ and he folded his arms in front of his chest and stepped slowly, turning his head left and then right, searching. His girl followed behind, standing only about 5’1″, folded her arms in front of her and followed suit, turning her head left and right. It reminded me of a rooster and a hen. They adore each other and it’s evident in how they look at each other. One year together without a fight. Absolute compatibility is what they have.

I won’t give up on finding someone to share my life with. I’m just not so sure that I am going to find Mr. Right. The dating sites offer hope, fun, and interest. My letters range from a 25 year old with this offer:

Hello,

I would like to offer you a free foot massage and pedicure. I am a submissive foot-boy ready to serve you by fulfilling all your desires and fantasies. Let me know if you are interested.

Charles.

This very handsome young man, whose profession is finance, is wearing an expensive suit.

…to this middle-aged man from a China:

Dear Adrienne,

I do not know how to express my love for you. In my view, the distance will not be a problem, it is important that you love me, if you love me, we will be together. Love each other forever, to grow old. You and I will be very happiness, the happiest person in the world. Others will envy you and my love, I was sincere, I really love you, you are my life’s pursuit.

I love you, I can not live without you, you have captured my heart, I can not do without you. I am willing and with you, never separate, you are noble and beautiful goddess, I am willing to prostrate at your feet, worship with you.

Love you forever,

xiao

What’s the attraction with feet?

Oh well, I will continue on with my search and report from the trenches.

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This note appeared on the editor’s desk this morning. We are having it translated for nuance and innuendo and will pass along any information. Adrienne’s up to something. What The Best Of Love Has © 2011 Adrienne S Moody. Read the latest Adrienne exploit on Now.readthisplease.

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3 Responses to “What The Best Of Love Has”
  1. Gaboo says:

    Interesting reporting, Adrienne. Reflecting, I think what has kept me and the old battle axe going is to encourage each other to be passionate about who we are… individually. We share pastimes, but not because we like the activity, because we enjoy our partner’s enthusiasm, support, humor, and ability to push the hot buttons. The rest of the world can go to hell, ’cause she got the key to the love shack.

    However, she might say my theory’s as defective as my dream to be a stand-up comic. Yawn. She’ll still get hauled downtown to cheer, though. Toughest critic.

  2. Lorraine says:

    Located your site through Reddit. You know I am signing up to your feed.

  3. Adrienne says:

    Glad you found us, Lorraine! And thanks for signing in and responding. We appreciate knowing we are being read.

    :-)

    ~Adrienne

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